It’s Not Like the Movies
“I didn’t feel
The fairy tale feeling, no
Am I a stupid girl
For even dreaming that I could?
If it’s not like the movies
That’s how it should be”
- Katy Perry, ‘Not Like the Movies’
I know I’m still naive, immature, and I still have so much to understand about everything, but here’s one I thing I just recently figured out.
Until now, I still don’t understand the very concept of love. The love I know was the love I read in story books, novels, movies, cartoons, songs, and any other media used to convey a story. Those beautiful and bittersweet concepts that make each one of us yearn for it and sometimes envy others who already have it. Sometimes, because of too much reading, watching, and listening, we ended up hoping to much and in the end we realized that reality is not like that :|. And my a friend once chided in, ‘You read too much sappy romance novels’. But can I, at least hope, even some tiny bit of that fairy tale, happens in my life >.<?
From all the ‘love story’ I ever known, from all the books and all the movies, there was one story that captivated me, and it was a story from a friend. And for privacy measures, I decided to tell this story in a puzzling manner >.<. It’s just how she described “it”, she described it from other perspectives I never know. I never knew “it” could be so wonderful if she didn’t tell me. Because I never really knew “it”, again-again, all I know about “it” was from the stories people told me and it wasn’t very likable :|. And because of her, I began to somehow admire “it”. And I just realized.. what my friend had that showed all the new perspective.. and it’s love.
In the end, I’m becoming sappy again.. hahaha.. But that’s not the point ._.
From that story I realized one thing about love, is seeing thing from other perspectives. People mostly generalized and stereotyped everything, and only see from one perspective that most people have experienced. But love can see through all that, found the real perspective people haven’t bothered to see, and then realized that it is actually beautiful, and then they’re really in love. And one of the great thing is, with this new perspective being realized, one can help, intentionally or unintentionally, his/her loved one become a better person or at least be content and more confident with him/herself.
So.. be glad if someone who loves you is the one who see that other perspective in you :). Well, be careful with the one who loves you because he/she wants to claim general perspective given by people about you.. For example.. because he’s rich, he’s smart, and et ce te ra…
Because if we depend on what general opinion said, we will often find everything wasn’t always what we hope for, and then we get upset. And if that happens, the worst is we begin to blame (I’m sorry ;_;). But that doesn’t mean that all the story books you read, and movies you watch are wrong entirely. Their stories are just one way to look at it, and not everything happens the same to every people. Maybe things happen to you differently, and then you will have a whole new story to tell :). So, if you’re upset, be careful to not being upset too long and don’t forget to start hoping again.
And for those who are still struggling, keep struggling and don’t give up hope. Because the other thing I realized is God is kind and fair, when the time is right, He will certainly give it to you :).
